Rejection story continued
There are many enemies, but we are never without a friend; and though badly hurt at times, we are not destroyed. 2 Cor 4:9 GNB
We are hunted down, but not abandoned by God. We get knocked down, but we are not destroyed. 2 Cor 4:9 NLT
The more I think about the issue of rejection the more I see how deep and many sided it is. In two previous posts I have shared that it is unavoidable, it is common to everyone and at times it is even deserved for instance when there are better people qualified for the job or when we don’t even meet the requirements. I also wrote about how Jesus Christ was rejected so we could be accepted into the family of God and how the love of God is more than enough. Finally I mentioned how rejection can be a way of God redirecting us. There is still a lot more to rejection that I’d like us to explore.
What happens in social or romantic relationships
I would like to explore what really happens when we are rejected in a social or romantic relationship where emotions rule. A business relationship may not involve that much emotion but in a marriage, a friendship, a family or an engagement rejection takes on another dimension. A lover disappoints or a child rejects parents and all the values they stand for. The list is endless but the pain cuts deeper in these relationships. The rejection may result in the end of the physical relationship. It is harder to bare when the physical relationship continues but it is obvious to you that the other person is not in the relationship with you mentally and emotionally. They have switched off.
There are two parties involved. The person rejecting and the person being rejected. Let’s look at things from the side of the rejected. What happens between the rejection and when they can actually find peace and joy from knowing that though rejected they are never abandoned by God. There are a lot of steps between the actual rejection and the healing. Through what I do, I come across a lot of women who have been rejected and the first thing I see is shock, numbness, or emotional paralysis. All these are symptoms of trauma. This may last for a few days or weeks and months. At times it seems as if they are in a world of their own. They are struggling with the reality of rejection. This phase may last from a day to several months or even years depending on how deep the hurt is. It’s almost like a bereavement, you have lost someone but that person is very much alive.
Knocked down and not destroyed.
We’ll continue looking at the stages of overcoming rejection in the other posts but I want to leave you with this. No matter how deep the pain, God’s love is more than enough. In Romans 8:35-39 we are told that nothing can separate us from the love of Christ. We are more than conquerors through Christ who loves us. No matter what stage you are in recovery from rejection, Christs love is there for you. We may have been knocked down by rejection but we are not destroyed.
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