Another Valentines Day


Romance or love and commitment?

Last week was Valentine’s Day : a culmination of shop windows swathed with red curtains, ribbons  and  promos of candle lit dinners for two. A few  emails advertising chocolates and perfumes escaped the spam box and actually landed in my mail box. All with the promise of romance which is often sadly confused with love and commitment.These are mutually exclusive. If you don’t agree with me; check out your dictionary to spot the difference. šŸ¤“šŸ™ƒ.

I read somewhere that of all the days in the year, Valentine’s Day records the highest number of illicit sexual escapades leaving a wake of broken hearts, unwanted pregnancies and STDs.  Don’t get me wrong; I am not against love, tenderness commitment and affection which should be expressed all year round, not just on Valentine’s Day.  Today, I am actually not writing about the  love we have for one another or even the love God has for us but about the love we have for God. 



The Greatest Commandment.

 Deut 10:12, says, ” And now Israel, what does the Lord require of you, but to fear the Lord your God, to walk in all His ways and to love Him, to serve the Lord your God with all your heart and all your soul.” In Matt 22:37-39, Jesus Christ says the greatest commandment is to love God with all our heart ( emotionally) and with all our mind ( intellectually).

I know I am designed for loving God, but how do I love Him? Is it by verbal confessions? But talk is cheap. Do I even want to? What does it mean to love Him, Who is love personified? Even as I write this I am humbled by the disparity between my verbal confessions and actually loving God. I know : I sing it, say it,  pray it and even write it, but is my heart in actually loving God? If Jesus Christ says this is the greatest commandment, then is a lot of my time not being spent on majoring on the minor? These are not questions I can answer in a hurry and I invite you to try asking yourself the same questions.

I read in I John 4: 19, ” we love Him because He first loved us” but does the reality of my life show this to be true? Am I not just being purely narcissistic ( excessive self – love) by praying for more blessings, breakthroughs, “destiny helpers” and so on and so forth?


Obedience is in loving and loving is in obedience.

In John 14:15, 21, 23 & 24, and John 15:9&10, Jesus Christ repeats that to love God is to keep His commandments.  He also says in Matthew 22:37 that the greatest commandment  is to love God knowing that if we love Him truly, we’ll be able to obey His commandments. I John 5:3 says, “for this is the love of God, that we keep His commandments. And His commandments are not burdensome.

If there was a scale to measure how much we love God, it would be how much do we obey Him. When He tells us to forgive are we quick to do so? When He tells us to meditate on His word day and night what is our response? What is the level of our obedience to God’s word?

The beginning and not the end of the matter.

It’s such a deep and fundamental issue that I pray the Holy Spirit will fill us up with love for God. I pray that God will put us in the company of those who truly love Him and are committed to knowing and doing His will. I pray that we will allow God to make us into women who do not see godliness as a means of gain but who are lovers of God.

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    • dayspringhelps3

      Amen Sis. I believe we all need God’s help in this matter.

  • Ore Amu

    This has really blessed me. Thank you Sis. God help us to truly understand His unquantifiable love for us.


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